Sometimes you might like a person and they like you, but you just aren't sure if
they want to kiss you or not.
Do they like you "in that way" or just as friends?
It's rather simple to find out, as there are certain behaviors that separate
friends only relations to romantic relations.
If you're a guy and you're not sure if
a girl wants to kiss you, you can do a few things to find out if she would enjoy
kissing you. The trick that works very well is when you're with the girl you
like, slowly escalate touching. Say you're at movies or walking down the
sidewalk, try taking her hand first and see how she reacts. If she reacts
positively and doesn't seem to be weirded out by that, you can slowly escalate
your non-intrusive touching. You can put your arm around her shoulders. Then,
when you're either sitting or standing up, after you got comfortable with
initial touching (this is to test waters if she's interested in your in a
romantic way), you start looking deep into her eyes as you softly stroke her
hair or brush it off her face. If she reacts positively to that, she most likely
wouldn't mind you kissing her. However, to be even more sure, brush her cheek
(just barely touching) with the back of your fingers, while looking into her
eyes. If she reacts positively to that, while looking at you, she almost definitely
wants to be kissed. Now move in closer and see if she withdraws. If she doesn't,
pull her closer to you and go for the kiss.
If you're a girl, generally accepted
stereotype is that guy is the one who should initiate the kiss. Personally, I
agree with this, but you might think differently. If a guy wants to kiss, he
will usually either say so, because he's shy or he will try to escalate touching
somehow. Most guys feel very nervous about kissing for the first time, so you
might have to make him feel comfortable by being close to him and inviting his
touch and maybe even doing some touching yourself, such as holding his hand or
putting palms of your hands on his chest while being close to him. This really
makes him feel confident about himself, so he might try and kiss you.
Usually a guy will stare at you or he
might kiss you unexpectedly while two of you together. The signs to look for are
if he's acting goofy around you, or teasing you playfully or compliments you,
smiles at you and tries to talk to you, all these things indicate that he might
want to kiss you if you don't make him uncomfortable about his intentions.
Meaning if you withdraw when he tries to escalate touching or if you act like
you're uncomfortable, it will bring his confidence levels down and he might
think you don't like him.
Often times it takes time to tell if
someone wants to kiss you or not by how they are behaving towards you. The more
general, yet possible indicators that someone might want to kiss you are:
Smiling at your when they see you
Having "bedroom eyes"
(those deep relaxed eyes that are affectionate)
Touching you at every opportunity
Touching your face or your hair
Playfully teasing you and tickling
Hugging you affectionately
Wanting to be closer to you than
other people in your group
Generally wanting to be close to
you and not withdraw when you touch them